Growing up I was frequently reminded by my mother to never make decisions based on friends, because “they come and go” she said. As a teen I brushed off that advice with the thought “she doesn’t even know my friends” but evidently with experience, what she could’ve told me was that friends you meet when you’re young aren’t the only people you’ll ever meet.
I’ve had a few best friends that I truly cherish, some i’ve met at such an early stage in my life I could even say I’ve known them forever. Which can be a wonderful thing to base a friendship on or a simple excuse to keep a friendship going.
Female friendships are important and should never be taken for granted. There’s nothing quite like having a shoulder to cry on when life gets a bit rough or paint the town red with a partner in crime. But the reality is, some friendships are only meant to last for a specific period in your life. People move on to work towards their own personal goals, which can change a lot about our views.
I think the solution to a broken friendship is to not force it any longer, if you don’t feel like seeing them on a weekly basis anymore – then don’t. Dismissing these friends entirely from your life isn’t the only option, it’s a matter of identifying who you can trust the most to the least and who you’re willing to put in effort for.
Here are signs to confirm you’ve outgrown a friend:
How do you feel after spending time with this ‘friend’? If you feel worse about yourself, then I don’t know a clearer sign of a toxic friendship. Stay surrounded by people who motivate you in life instead of those who bring you down because there’s no room to grow in a negative state of mind.