Ellie McDonald looks into why women sometimes date the same types of men they’ve loved (and loathed) in the past.
Going back to your ex might not necessarily be a bad thing if it means that you’re both able to build awareness around all of the positive and negative aspects of the relationship. However, if it’s just a repetition of the same old stuff happening from the past, then nothing really positive can come from such a pattern.
The Man Who Can’t Commit
Despite date after awesome date, he still won’t call you his girlfriend – and this isn’t the first time it’s happened. With these non-committal types, if you find that your goals for the future aren’t the same as his, you’re going nowhere with this guy. It’s vital to value yourself and also know you deserve to have a committed partner.
The Ultimate Bad Boy
The problem here is that this man is big trouble – and you kinda love it. The important thing to remember is if you find yourself knee-deep in this situation, make sure that his influence on your life is positive, never negative. A great way to understand if getting back with him is a good or bad thing is by asking yourself the question, ‘Do I feel safe, happy and fulfilled in this relationship?”
The Guy Who Broke Your Heart
Remember that time the man you planned to give up everything for dumped you and left you heartbroken? If the two of you can work out exactly why he did what he did and then process the original break-up, including really forgiving him, this could be a good thing. The bad news: If the relationship appears to be back on with no explanation, then nothing will change.
The Dude You Had No Chemistry With
You swiped right on that potential head-turner on Tinder, but after meeting up with him, you wished you swiped left instead. Fast forward a few months, you come across him again and decide to give him another shot. Try asking yourself what it is that this guy has to offer that draws you back. Is it for any particularly good reason? Or do you just need a warm body to snuggle up to?