It's 3am and you're lying in bed questioning every meticulous detail in your life. Why? Because it just seems like the right time. Either you have been through a life altering change - broke up with your boyfriend, quit your job, gained 10kg. These sound pretty dang familiar, don't they?
“I’ll Never Find My Soulmate”
The danger with a negative mindset is that it can easily create self-fulfilling prophecies. As Dr Sharp explains, “People who think like this develop behaviours that are unattractive, or that turn others away if there is some attraction.” Having realistic expectations of The One — ie that they may not necessarily be perfect — is crucial. Psychologist Sharon Bent says your happiness shouldn’t solely depend on your relationship status. “Embrace responsibility for your own contentment and develop strategies — that don’t rely on finding The One — to enhance your sense of purpose. Start doing some volunteer work with an organisation that you feel passionately about. You’ll soon find this will give you a more positive mindset, which will make you more attractive to others — and increase your likelihood of meeting a partner.”