So, they’ve been caught. Now that your trust is non-existent, is there any way you can pick up the pieces and try again?
“NO, I ENDED UP LEAVING”
“I was with my then-fiancé for around four years when it started — let me just say that a woman always knows if something is not right with her man. And everything my instincts
were telling me were right. First, I would catch him on the phone in the weirdest places, out of earshot of me. There were other red flags, like him shaving “down there”, and buying new boxers and colognes (I thought I was in for a real treat) but he would never initiate sex. I finally found out who the girl was and he confessed. Since he didn’t give me or our relationship the dignity we deserved, I decided that he wasn’t worth a second chance. I called off the wedding and… It hurt. The whole ordeal made me mentally stronger, but also more suspicious of new partners. I’m definitely finding it hard to trust again, and it’s taking time, but I’m slowly healing.” — Adeline, 28, Stewardess
“YES, I CHOSE TO STAY”
“So here’s the thing, whenever I argued with my partner, I’d just walk away. At first, he would chase after me, but over time, he stopped, and that became our way of dealing with disagreements — disappearing on each other. We not only failed at communication, but allowed resentment to breed. I found out about his infidelity when I read a text conversation between him and his friend. Even though I was horrified, I was angry at myself for not seeing the signs sooner. Weeks later, I could no longer deal with the hurt, and told him I snooped and knew everything. He was sorry, and felt terrible that I lived with it for so long. It was hard, but sometimes you just have to fight for what you want. People will always fail you, so you learn to manage your expectations. It was difficult
trusting him again, but it also made us re-evaluate our relationship and come from a different place.” — Samantha, 27, Media Relations Executive