It seems that Hollywood has given us a very warped perception of how good sex should be like. You know the drill: foreplay that starts at the bar and continues all the way to the front door; tripping over each other in the house and falling down on the bed in a hot mess. Then going at it all night long (sometimes two or three times) before waking up when the sun shines, only to get busy again.
Well, a study by researchers at Penn State University has found otherwise. Researchers Eric Corty and Jenay Guardiani held interviews with psychologists, physicians, marriage therapists, social workers and nurses – people who have collectively met thousands of patients over the years.
They found that sex lasting over half an hour was “a situation ripe for disappointment and dissatisfaction”. That’s right, doing the dirty all night long does NOT feel good. At all. In fact, they concluded that the perfect time for sex to last to be considered good is between seven and 13 minutes. That is a little longer than the average time cited to get the job done: five minutes.
These are the four categories they came up with:.
- Too short: 1-2 minutes
- Adequate: 3-7 minutes
- Desirable: 7-13 minutes
- Too long: 10-30 minutes
“A man’s or woman’s interpretation of his or her sexual functioning as well as the partner’s relies on personal beliefs developed in part from society’s messages, formal and informal,” the researchers explained.
“Unfortunately, today’s popular culture has reinforced stereotypes about sexual activity. Many men and women seem to believe the fantasy model of large penises, rock-hard erections and all-night-long intercourse.”
Is it a yay or nay to that, girls?