Over the weekend, a medical student at the International Medical University of Malaysia (IMU) is being called out by angry netizens for his sexist and insensitive comment on a news report about the death of artist Emily Kong, who was killed in an accident on Saturday, 9 March.
He posted that Emily could have avoided the accident had she not left the pub alone. The Star's report has no mention of Emily being in a pub prior to the accident. In his comment, the IMU medical student said things like this (the accident) happens because women think they can do everything on their own and be independent.
And worse, he implied that men give women rides in return for sex, and that that's an expected practice.
His comment read:
"Condolences.. I hope all the girls learn a good lesson now.. Never leave the pub without a guy.. Man and woman work together.. We offer you a safe drive home and you give us makeout or sex.. I mean girls like sex too right.. This is what happens when women think they can do everything on their own and be independent.. Every woman need men."
To those who post MEN ARE TRASH, this particular post makes me agree with you.
This guys doesn’t represent all men!
Kiren Raj, JPA Scholar, IMUian, Medical Student.
His remark on Emily Kong (RIP)’s passing. pic.twitter.com/7E8Oe59fW8
— theshreekalidass (@shree_kalidass) March 10, 2019
In the latest update, an online petition is making its rounds, calling for the stop of Kiren Raj's appalling behaviour. The petition has collected over 42 thousand signatures, nearing their 50 thousand goal. IMU announced yesterday that they would hold a disciplinary hearing to investigate the case. The institution also stressed that they do not condone such behaviour, pointing out that it instituted in 2012/2013 a social media policy that students were required to follow.
We at #TeamCLEO’s office are striving to make a difference, using our voices to bring an impact to society. Sexual aggression and violence stems from toxic masculinity. But we believe in the ripple effect; where it all starts from one person to make a change. Have you ever been in a situation where a guy friend tells you something about girls and you end up feeling chilled right to your bones? Or when he puts his arms around your shoulders even though you’re not feeling comfortable with him doing so? If the answer is yes to either one, do you have the guts to tell him that you’re not alright with his actions?
Most of the time, guys aren't aware that their actions like calling girls names, or telling them they can't do certain things on their own and need men for it, or putting their arms over girls’ shoulders actually affect us. So, if you have ever encountered your guy friends or even your own BF doing something or saying something about women that you may not feel comfortable with, pull him to one side and educate him about respecting females.
Don’t know what to say? #TeamCLEO listed out a few guidelines to follow on respecting females for your guy friends or BF:
WOMEN ARE PEOPLE, NOT THINGS
Sexual objectification occurs when one identifies a woman’s body as an object to be looked, desired and touched instead as an individual with personalities. Sounds familiar?
Based from this article from Sciencedaily.com, it states that observers (males) have less empathy for sexually objectified women who they are unable to feel for. They can’t recognise the emotions of those women. For that being said, the brain’s empathy network of the males is not functioning the way it is supposed to be due to the act of sexual objectification towards females.
For example, if you come across a group of guy friends comparing girls’ Instagram profiles among one another and discussing about who’s hotter, intervene right away. Tell them that it is very disrespectful to do so and let them know that they are, in fact, dehumanising a person who is just trying to live her own life. Plus, let them know how it affects YOU, as a female and also indirectly to the girl whom they were talking about. Based on this article by NYU Steinhardt, women tend to be more self-conscious about their appearance which can lead to anxiety, depression and eating disorders.