I’ve often been told by my mates how they envy my quick ‘get back up on the saddle’ attitude. They find it amazing how after one fling is over, I’m already open to the next one. Just to be clear, it’s not the same as ‘to get over someone you need to get under someone else’. It’s about recognising that when one door closes, another one opens.
I’ve learnt to minimise wallowing in things that don’t work out. In fact, I actually encourage all of you to wallow but know when to stop before you can’t un-dig yourself out of that black hole of ‘what if’s’ and ‘could’ve been’s’. I’ll admit, it takes a lot of strength and a lot of will power but you come to learn that when you’ve been disappointed so many times you need to: recognise the hurt, learn from it and then let it go.
Every heart break you encounter teaches you something different. If it doesn’t show you what you want, it should show you what you don’t want. This is why I say never protect your heart – with protection comes shelter and comfort; bearing your heart and soul opens you up to hurt and pain but it also welcomes opportunities for growth.
Ladies and gents, I urge you to never become cold. Don’t let one or two or six heartbreaks push you into a closed off place. Before you decide you are ‘done’ and before you declare yourself unlovable – don’t. Remember that heartbreaks are an integral part of growing up, that, ironically, in order to fall in love with yourself someone has to fall out of love with you.