All The Times Alain De Botton Perfectly Explained Life

For those of you who may not know who Alain de Botton is, he’s a philosopher, author and television producer who aims to make philosophy relevant in every day life. I was first introduced to his work, ‘Essays in Love’ when I was sent over a care package for my birthday by some dear friends. And with that, my life changed.

With many books, articles and TV programmes under his belt, Botton discusses various contemporary subjects all whilst incorporating the philosophy behind them into our everyday lives.

I hope his words shake you to your core like it did with me.

1 . “Intimacy is the capacity to be rather weird with someone – and finding that that’s okay with them.” – Alain de Botton

2. “To one’s enemies: “I hate myself more than you ever could.” – Alain De Botton

The telephone becomes an instrument of torture in the demonic hands of a beloved who doesn’t call.” – Essays in Love

Perhaps it is true that we do not really exist until there is someone there to see us existing, we cannot properly speak until there is someone who can understand what we are saying in essence, we are not wholly alive until we are loved.” – Essays in Love

We fall in love because we long to escape from ourselves with someone as beautiful, intelligent, and witty as we are ugly, stupid and dull. But what if such a perfect being should one day turn around and decide they will love us back? We can only be somewhat shocked – how can they be as wonderful as we had hoped when they have the bad taste to approve of someone like us?” – Essays in Love

What we seek, at the deepest level, is inwardly to resemble, rather than physically to possess, the objects and places that touch us through their beauty.” – The Architecture of Happiness

See how small you are next to the mountains. Accept what is bigger than you and what you do not understand. The world may appear illogical to you, but it does not follow that it is illogical per se. Our life is not the measure of all things: consider sublime places a reminder of human insignificance and frailty.” – The Art of Travel

Marriage: a hopeful, generous, infinitely kind gamble taken by two people who don’t know yet who they are or who the other might be, binding themselves to a future they cannot conceive or and what carefully omitted to investigate.” – The Course of Love

Few in this world are ever simply nasty; those who hurt us are themselves in pain. The appropriate response is hence never cynicism nor aggression but, at the rare moments one can manage it, always love.” – The Course of Love


“There is no such thing as a work-life balance. Everything worth fighting for unbalances your life.”