Is There Such Thing As Being ‘Too Happy’ In A Relationship?

Catching up with your ride or die friends over coffee is the cheapest therapy session a girl can afford. A long overdue, good-nature banter between sips makes comfort space for someone on the round table to share their latest unrequited love story via Tinder.

Or to announce a recent break-up.

Being the good friend that you are (or try to be), the first question you’d blurt out would be “What did he do?” with a clear indication that you’re on their side of the court. But the truth of today’s dating world is, it’s much more common for two people to part ways under the circumstances of being ‘too happy’, claiming the initial spark has now turned to dust. Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing better than a break-up based off mutual grounds, if anything, I think it’s the best way for both people to gain enough closure.

I couldn’t help but think to myself whether being ‘too happy’ has become a problem in relation to how we fantasize about love. If we’re so shunned away from the idea of absolute compatibility, what are we even looking for?

Do we yearn for passion or… drama? ARE THEY THE SAME DAMN THING?

In every western romantic comedy movie, there is always a hurdle to cross in order to celebrate a joyous happy ending. Perhaps there’s a reason why the story line ends where it does, not much (?) goes on beyond it.

Maintaining a healthy relationship is underrated, all the best love songs ever created revolve around romanticizing heartbreak.

But an iconic line from Florence + The Machine’s ‘What Kind of A Man’ music video really struck me with the message: “So, you think that people who suffer together would be more connected than people who are content?”

The harder a relationship is to uphold, the more we tend to clench our fists tighter to keep it intact. In contrary to the platitude advice we would give out to others, pushing them to build up courage to love themselves enough to eliminate people who don’t deserve it. Every relationship is unique to its own, there’s no discrediting functional relationships that are happy and healthy. But it takes passing a few storms to get there. If you find yourself in a better position after post-break-up, there’s no reason to look back.